Cute ideas

I love doing cute things for my love. I love being creative and I even pictures to share! so I will share a few things I have done and give ideas of what I would like to do as well. 

This one I did around Hector's birthday during my card making phase.

The first one I drew and my sister helped me with the second one. Drawing for your lover is a cute way to show that you love them even if you are not very good at it. It is the thought that counts.

I got bored one night and had some play dough. This is really fun while you wait for your partner to get on skype. At the beginning of our relationship I did a lot of waiting for him. It is really fun to make cute things for them and then send the picture.

I made these for valentines day. I love to crochet. You can use your talents like drawing or crochet to show your partner that you love them. Except for the play dough I have sent all of these things in care packages. I have sent two packages plus a few letters. While pictures are great, tangible things are better.

I have also made a video that is 101 reasons I love you, several paint pictures.

Here are some of the things Hector has made me:

This is a part of a valentines day present. The key to his heart.

I received these on the day the world was supposed to end 12/21/12

just one of the cute pictures Hector has made for me.

Some future projects:

I am working on a huge blanket for Hector

Letter for different reasons i.e. letter for when you need a laugh or letter for when you miss me. I need more ideas for that one so let me know if you can think of any.

Sending care packages is important

Some things I have sent include:

homemade cards

crocheted things

teddy bears

kid valentines (200)

homemade valentines

my favorite candy

english half penny

mix cd

Things Hector has sent me:

Coffee from his Coffee farm

teddy bear

the last curiosity rover hot wheel he could find in the whole city of Miami 

mix cds

love letters

necklace with matching earrings

flowers

Remember you are in a relationship so spoil your partner a little!

Happy loving!

Jennifer and Hector

So you are in a long distance love, now what?

First, I would like to introduce myself. I am Jennifer and I am in a long distance love with Hector. I live in Idaho and he lives in Guatemala. We have been together for almost eleven months as of this post. It has been a crazy,life changing and wonderful year for the both of us. We are both just crazy nerds in love. I am going to school for psychology and he is an engineer working on a MBA. We pick up where the other one lacks. This is what life is all about.

 I decided to make a blog as a guide for those in a long distance love because I have searched the internets for guides and ideas for making this kind of relationship work and came up empty-handed. I have had to just be creative to make this work and I wish I had some ideas to help me so I am making a guide to help you, young padawan. 

If you are anything like me a lot of words bore you and if something is not nicely charted you get bored and do not get the important information so I will try my best to keep it interesting. Wish me luck?

So assuming you are past all the first date crap that other sites talk about and now you are in a relationship, what's next? I have compiled a basic list of what you need. If you read no further at least read the list, it is important. Please?

Love Distance Love Basic Necessities. 

• Trust
• Dedication
• Communication
• Ways to be keep things interesting
• Webcam
• Smartphone
• Good Internet

For those of you still reading, thanks and now I will go a little more in depth and as a psychology major I feel qualified to do so. (ha)

Trust
This, I believe, is the most important part of the whole guide. If you do not trust your partner then what is point? You need to be trustworthy too so do not go around and look for other people. When you decide to be in a relationship then you stick to it or leave it. I cannot say this enough, do not string your partner along. If you are not happy then just leave. This kind of relationship is not easy but if you decide to do it then be dedicated. Which leads me to the next basic need , dedication.

Dedication
I am going to repeat myself again. Once you get into a relationship you need to stick to it. No wibbly-wobbly things. You need to make a decision and stick to it. This kind of relationship requires dedication or it will not work. This kind of relationship is like any other relationship, it requires work and a good partner. Now, I am not going to go into what a good partner is and blah blah blah, that is for someone else to do. This is a guide for when you have that good partner and want to make it work.

Communication
Let's be honest, communication is all you have right now. So you need to learn to be a good communicator. You need to learn to be able to communicate your feelings about everything and anything and you need to learn to listen. I will not go to in depth because there is books about communication and if you need help with that, read the books. Just make sure a communication block does not happen because that can be the death of any relationship not just just a long distance love.

Ways to keep things interesting
If you are anything like me, you already know what I just went over and may or may not have just skipped the first three basics but read them if you can, I wrote some good stuff if I do say so myself. Now, to the good stuff of what you can do with your partner and this is a guide for nerds so there might be a lot of nerdy stuff but nerd stuff is fun after all. This whole blog is about how to keep things interesting and a lot of the following list will be in more detail in later posts but if you only read this post then at least you have some ideas. 

• Skype- Now this is on the basic needs list but I feel it is important enough to say again. You need skype for most of this list so get it! Get it now! 
• Games- Skype has some fun games and so does google hangout. They can keep things interesting and you can interact with one-another. Hector and I love skypes version of battleship but you can choose what you like. Pogo is also another good one but can also be a pain so good luck. Oh by the way skypes games are under applications and is called firearc, you have to download the app on it. Pretty easy to find.
• Netflix- I am personally addicted to netflix and find the cost so worth it. It can be your best friend and worst enemy. I have had it be both for Hector and I. It is great for when you need something to do but do not let it be a communication blocker. If you need a good show to watch and discuss watch Doctor Who. Hector and I are whovians and we love it!
• Do naughty things- This requires a separate post all I will say is get creative.
• Eating at the same time- It can be fun to eat at the same and even to eat the same thing. It all depends on you and your partner so use communication on that one. Hector and I are allergic to different things so we cannot eat the exact same thing but we make it work.
• Just sitting together- Hector has taught me a very important lesson while we have been together. Sometimes it is ok to just sit there and be together. I will watch my T.V. shows and he will play his games. We enjoy those nights because we can just relax and still be together. 
• Love letters- I am a mushy romantic and love to do cute things like love letters. I just sent one yesterday to Hector. It can be so fun to get a letter in the mail that is not a bill. To make it more fun spray your perfume or cologne on it so they can smell you too.
• Care Packages- This is an extension of love letters. Send a package that helps them when they miss you. The best present I have ever gotten from Hector is my teddy bear F.P.C.D (furry plaid clad deputy) picture later. These packages can be such a help and gives you something tangible from your lover.
• Find a fandom to enjoy together- Hector and I are whovians and that gives a lot to talk about. It is fun and is a way to bond.
• Talk about your interests- find similar interests to discuss and enjoy. Hector and I talk about the most random things sometimes and it is very fun. We once discussed how to make armor better by bending space. Find interests you can talk about and even can laugh about.
• Share memes- I love memes, they can be so funny. You can look at websites like damnlol.com and lolsnaps. If you know any good meme sites please comment, we need moar!
• Tell childhood stories- this is a great way to get to know your partner. Tell the funny ones and the sad ones too. 
• Share music- Sometimes when you do not have much to talk about it is fun to just listen to music together.
• Tell your partner about your day- Give them details about your day. It makes them feel like they are a part of your life.
• Text and call- Skyping is important but you have a life so you need to text and call too. Since Hector and I live in different countries texting was a little complicated at first. I finally convinced him to get a smartphone and we use an app called viber. Free texting and calling internationally. What a Godsend!
• Fall asleep together. Sometimes you are tired but still want to be together so take a nap or fall asleep at night together. It can be a great bonding experience and very cute.
• Talk about the future- Assuming you want to be together for a long time then plan your future. Plan future trips and work out how you want life to be when you are finally together. Do not focus on that you are a part but focus on the future you can have together.

This is just the basic guide and a lot of this I will go into detail in later posts. These are just some ideas and if you have more please feel free to comment them and I will add them.

Remember this relationship is so beautiful and requires work and effort. Do not get discouraged when other people do not understand it. It is possible to make it work.

Happy loving!

-Jennifer and Hector